aRT oF LeTTiNg gO
Posted by inzomaniac on June 22, 2008
To let go does not mean to stop caring,
it means I can’t do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off, it’s the realization I can’t control another.
To let go is not to enable,
but allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means
the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame another,
it’s to make the most of myself.
To let go is not to care for,
but to care about.
To let go is not to fix,
but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their destinies.
To let go is not to be protective,
it’s to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny,
but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue,
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.
To let go is not to criticize or regulate anybody,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more
most of the times, we are all afraid to let go of the things or persons that somehow occupied the biggest part of our lives… we are scared that having someone or something new will be difficult for us to adjust… you expose yourself outside your comfort zone… yes, i must say, we got stuck and got used to what we have, that we can’t picture out someone new in our lives…
but have you ever thought that maybe, by doing so, something a lot better may cross your path… each one of us has different techniques to learn to let go of the ones we have loved for a long time…
but is there really some standards or rules for us to following so that we would have a clue when to let go, and when to hold on? unfortunately, none of that exist… maybe we could pass a bill to the house of representatives for them to come up with the idea…🙂
but for me there are only 2 things that you should identify if you should hold on, or start letting go…
1. LOVE – the relationship started with the both of you being in-love… then it must end if that love has run out in your heart… nothing more is harding for a person to lie to himself/herself that you love a person, while in fact, you don’t…
2. HAPPINESS – it takes the effort of the couple to maintain a happy relationship… but when it turns out that you don’t find yourself happy in a relationship.. maybe, you should start thinking twice if you must continues the relatioship… this is the most important thing that you should keep in mind.. the person can learn to love you as long as he/she is happy with you… but when happiness runs out, love is not enough reason to hold on to…