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PMS ::: premarital sex

Posted by inzomaniac on June 23, 2008

“Is it ok to have premarital sex?” That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you’re not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision?

have you ever been teased and bullied by friends because you are still a virgin today??? it is very common that peers tend to measure an individual’s sexuality (in the case of men=masculinity) based on their sexual experiences… we tend to see those who are “sexually active” as masters of the act…

we challenge ourselves to follow their path… to become almost like them… its quite amusing that nowadays, it is very natural and normal to see a pregnant girl at the age of 14 or 15…

a lot have turned their backs from their responsibility as mothers or fathers of their children.. a friend of mine just knew, at the 16, that the sister he had was his real mother… i have 3 cousins, from an aunt, who have 3 different fathers… i have a friend who have nursed her baby at the age of 15… i have a classmate who was deprived to see his baby by his ex-girlfriend… my sister’s friend has to stop studying because he got pregnant… my friends had a fucking friend whom they alternately had sex with, after that, the girl had syphilis… another innocent girl i knew, just tried having sex once, after that she just changed into a totally different person… a close friend of mine had to abort her baby because she was still studying…

yes.. having sex is a very climatic experience… but did it come to our minds the possible effects of our actions… a one night experience of pleasure may bring as a lifetime agony and despair..

Premarital sex high among Filipino youth

One out of four Filipinos aged 15-24 are engaging in premarital sex, according to a study by the UP Population Institute.

This year’s study also says that close to 4 million youngsters are engaging in premarital sex with 30% of the respondents doing it in their own homes while 18% were doing it inside motels and hotels. SOURCE


3 Responses to “PMS ::: premarital sex”

  1. Anonymous Bystander said

    All the issues you list here are not problems of sex but of disease and unwanted pregnancy. Teaching young people to wait is a pointless exercise, like trying to hold back the tide. Much better to teach the young to be respectful of their bodies and of each other and to understand what safe sex means.

    I don’t condone or encorage sexual activity among those too immature to handle it’s risks but young people will experiment.

    Who does the most harm? The young people who are not educated in the risks or their parents who do nothing to educate them?

  2. inzomaniac said

    i understand the unstoppable curiosity of the youth… and yes, you are right… it is pointless to stop the tide…

    i guess there is really no way of stopping it now…

    but sometimes too much answer or informations lead to more questions and greater curiosity…

    but nonetheless, we should never put blame to our parents who failed to educate us on this subject matter… some may have had advices from their parents, good… mostly, its a very sensitive topic within the family, especially,for those who are conservative…

  3. Shanerl said

    —all of my life I’ve been focusing myself to my studies and ambition thinking that I’ll be happy after this…Being in a relationship sometimes tends me to realize that it will be fullfilling spending my time with my partner…But sad yet undeniable that sometimes we sort to a situation that we are not satisfied without those physical attachment…

    —according to my humble opinion, premarital sex is tantamount to a great responsibility.,, it is not just have yourself fullfilled with worldly pleasures at time then end to nothing… you are bound to stand and commit to whatever may happen after next…

    —Life is a matter of choice then, but why is it that people around you will judge you as immoral if you are into that premarital sex…? why is it degrading to the morale of every person where in fact it is a part of being human being…

    —the thing is our ancestors believe that marriage is a sacred part of every relationship… they said that blessing will continue to pour out after bringing ourself into the church for marriage…we are bound to love each other and build a family without cheating our partner.

    —Though, I was born with this generation of curiosity and pleasure I still believe in “fidelity within marriage”…..

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